Sunday, July 12, 2009

An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth

For several months now, Paolo and his dad have not been in speaking terms. It was something that the latter did (or did not do) that hurt my brother. I must admit, Paolo has every reason to feel upset. On the other hand, acting not to tear down the wall that estranges them from one another is questionable.

As a big brother (on the short side :) ), I am quite nosy. Hence, ever since Paolo's rift with his father, who, incidentally, is also my Dad 2 (remember him?), I have been talking my brother into humbling himself so they could patch things up. I did it before with Dad 2 when I came over to him and shook his hand. Of course, you could not expect me to be intensely warm after more than two decades of avoiding each other. My approach was casual, but it was genuine.

Regardless of one's inadequacies, we have to show kindness. No one is accountable to us; however, we will always be accountable for our own deeds. We should not weigh the hurt that we have received. Our concern should be: the favor that we are willing to return.


MommaWannabe said...

Wow this is a powerful post. I hope they patch things up soon as life is too short. I lost my father unexpectedly when I was just 19 so I do have lots of regrets. I was mad at him for awhile and didn't talk with him...and when the time came I wanna make good again...he left earth.

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Prodigal Son 35 said...

hi MommaWannabe,

i spoke with my brother last night; he's working on it.

sorry about your dad. i completely understand your point.


evilsquirrel01 said...

Well, sometimes we can't avoid rifts between family members, but I hope they talk it through, though.

Prodigal Son 35 said...

hi evilsquirrel01,

thanks for dropping by. i am still waiting for them to patch things up.


martinaj said...

Its good that you were able to humble yourself and make up with your dad. Hopefully your brother would be able to as well. Keep working on him. I myself have recenty learned the POWER of telling my spouse Good Morning when I wake up eventhough we may have an dispute or something.

Prodigal Son 35 said...

thanks, martinaj, for dropping by. it is good to wake up GOOD. cheers!